Years ago I asked God to send me a wife, for the Bible says "you have not
because you ask not". I told the Lord not just that I wanted a wife but even
explained to him the kind of wife I was looking for. I told him I wanted
someone that was kind, tender, gentle, compassionate, loving, sincere,
peaceful, generous, affectionate, understanding, passionate, warm,
intelligent, humorous, sensual, and trustful. I even mentioned things
I wanted her to be physically.
And as time passed, I would add more things to this list of my heart's
desire for a wife. Then one night in prayer God spoke to my heart
and said, "Son I cannot give you what you've asked me for."
I said, "Why not Lord?" He replied, "For I am a just God and a God of
righteousness and all I do is just and right."
I said, "Lord, I don't understand why I cannot have what I have asked you
He replied, "Then I will explain. It would not be just and right for me to
grant to you your wish for I cannot give unto you something that you
are not yourself.
It would not be fair for me to grant unto you a person that is loving if you
can sometimes be hateful, or someone that is kind if you can also be mean,
someone that is a forgiver and yet you can still carry a grudge,
someone that is sensitive and you are yet so insensitive......."
He said unto me, "Instead of wasting time trying to find someone or hoping
that I will give you someone with all these qualities you seek, you
should rather allow me to take this time to allow you to become all it is
that you are looking for. For I cannot give to you that which you are not.
And if you allow me to work upon your spirit and to shape and mold your heart
as I choose then when you see the one I have for you, you will be able to say
like Adam said..."She is bone of my bone and she is flesh of my flesh" for
you will see yourself in her for you both will
be one flesh."
Keep this in mind. This is for all: the recently married; the ones who have
been married; the soon to get married; and the ones that are still looking.