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| Article Time Stamp: 28 September 2008, 22:50:04 GMT+7 | |
Letter From Shelly Luben
Shelley Lubben is a mother, a missionary to the sex industry, fighter for truth and advocate for sex workers and porn performers who are abused by the adult industry.
Shelley is also a former porn actress fighting tirelessly against the pornography industry which affects most of the world in a destructive way. Unrelenting in the cause of human rights, Shelley is passionate to educate people all around the world about the abusive and illegally operating porn industry as well as inspire the world to stop viewing pornography and stop contributing to the destruction of men and women who are being abused daily in the pornography industry.
Shelley recently testified against the porn industry regarding the secondary negative effects it causes on industry workers as well as the general public at California State Capitol in support of AB2914 Adult Entertainment Tax bill which will tax pornography and the adult entertainment industry at the rate of 25% of gross receipts received in this state on or after October 1, 2008. This important tax measure will help individuals and families deal with the physical and emotional effects of the adult industry.
Porn Industry Facts:
Eleven porn pornstars died from HIV, suicide, homicide and drugs in 2007.
Between 2003 and 2005, 976 performers were reported with 1,153 positive STD results.
66% of porn performers have Herpes, a non-curable disease.
Because of the huge epidemic of sexually transmitted diseases, drugs and prostitution, and abuse toward adult industry workers with lack of help available, Shelley and her husband Garrett founded the Pink Cross Foundation, a nonprofit public benefit corporation created to reach out to adult industry workers offering emotional, financial and transitional support for those who want out of porn and the sex industry.
Shelley has been working with adult industry workers since 2002 when she began volunteering as a teacher and counselor at local rescue missions and prisons in the State of California. She has worked at Madera Rescue Mission, Bakersfield Rescue Mission, Central California Women's Facility Prison, and Valley State Prison for Women and has traveled throughout the United States as a speaker and counselor on the negative effects of pornography at various recovery programs, churches and secular organizations. Shelley and her team currently work with hundreds of people struggling with pornography addiction in the Pink Cross Foundation Help Forums at www.thepinkcross.org as well as reach out to thousands of porn stars and sex workers through outreach and individualized care packages.
A former stripper, prostitute and pornographic actress in the 80's and 90's, Shelley suffered major negative effects of the pornography industry and was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Depressive Disorder, Impulse Control Disorder and substance abuse due to years of trauma from the sex industry. In 1994, she was infected with the non-curable disease Genital Herpes while making a pornographic film and later developed early cervical cancer. Shelley had three unexpected pregnancies from prostitution acts, two ending in miscarriages. Later, with her husband, she had an Entopic pregnancy and a third miscarriage. FOUR total pregnancy losses. Shelley understands very well how destructive the pornography industry is.
After finding God through Christianity and enduring eight hard years of recovery at the Champion's Center in Tacoma, Washington, Shelley was able to live a normal healthy Champion life.
Shelley is currently pursuing a Bachelor's of Theology degree at Vision International University in California and is near completion. Shelley has attended Pierce College in Tacoma Washington for her general academics, Wisdom For Life Leadership School in Tacoma Washington and Harvestime International Bible College where she received a Christian Workers Certificate in Biblical Studies in 2003. Shelley majors in Theology and minors in Creative Writing. Shelley is also the president of the Pink Cross Foundation which is a non-profit organization that reaches out to porn stars and sex workers to help them rebuild their lives as well as helping those who struggle with porn addiction. Shelley enjoys raising her daughters, learning about Catholicism, web development, volunteering at local rescue missions and prisons, reading about great Reformers, inspiring people to never give up and is extremely involved in missionary and social work.
Shelley speaks knowledgeably on such topics as the secondary negative effects of prostitution and pornography, the Adult Entertainment Tax Bill AB2914, the truth behind the porn industry, how to overcome pornography addiction, the risks and effects of sex work, and other subjects to include Theology, Christianity,and more.
Shelley wants to warn America what the porn industry's mission is:
To completely destroy you and your family through its ability to lure you, support your addiction to porn and make a profit off of it.
Some of pornography's lies:
Porn doesn’t hurt anyone. But the statistics are clear. According to comScore Media Metrix, 71.9 million people visited adult sites in August 2005, reaching 42.7 percent of the Internet audience. At $12 billion a year, the revenues of the porn industry in the U.S. are bigger than the NFL, NBA and Major League Baseball combined. Worldwide porn sales are reported to be $57 billion.
To put this in perspective, Microsoft sells the operating system used on most of the computers in the world (in addition to other software) and reported sales of $36.8 billion in 2004.
Pornography is not only highly addictive material but also promotes lies about women. "Porn," Shelley says, "exploits and devalues women. Porn converts women into objects rather then people with feelings and opinions of their own. Even soft-core pornography portrays women as sex objects who exist only to give sexual satisfaction to men. They are "pets" or "playmates" valued only from the neck down. Many porn addicts now admit they find it hard not to view women as chunks of meat because of viewing pornography."
Another lie the porn industry wants you to believe is that we porn actresses love sex. They want you to think women enjoy being degraded by all kinds of repulsive acts. Please read an excerpt from my upcoming book
Many believe the widespread fairytale that women enjoy making porn movies but in reality there are no happy endings for the women of porn. Women do NOT enjoy making porn movies and a closer behind-the-scenes look will show you several reasons why.
In the world of hardcore sex, an average day on the set for a porn actress is a long and tedious process. Women are told to come in around 8 am for makeup but it's only to make sure porn actresses arrive on time to work. Porn stars have a habit of arriving late because they're often hung over from drugs or alcohol from the night before.
After make up, porn actresses usually wait around long hours until it's their turn to do their scene. Some scenes take an hour and some take several hours to film. It really depends if the male actor in the first scene could "perform" or not. It also depends if female actresses have to stop the clock because they can't handle the pain of a hardcore sex scene.
While waiting around, jaded porn performers usually end up in the rest rooms with bottles of alcohol and lines of speed or outside in their cars for a heroin fix or gathered in the back yard with other actors to smoke marijuana.
To add to the mind-numbing process, women are never able to experience sexual pleasure because of the continuous cutting during sex scenes. In the background the director constantly yells, "cut" and the flow of action is interrupted in order to get a better shot, adjust lighting or to wipe up bodily fluids. Repeatedly pornographers stop the scenes and ask actors to "freeze" in position during very hardcore sex acts, which causes great physical and emotional pain for porn actresses.
I speak from personal experience when I say to be in the middle of a hardcore sex act with several actors at the same time and told to "freeze" in position for several minutes while lighting or cameras are adjusted is extremely painful and degrading. It's also very humiliating when scenes are stopped in order to wipe up bodily fluids such as semen, feces and blood.
Despite the fact that women do not enjoy making porn movies, they continue to lie to their fans and proudly insist they enjoy making porn movies. Of course they do. They get paid hundreds and thousands of dollars to lie because this is their occupation. Porn stars are paid professional liars who know how to "act" and they do it well. In fact, because porn stars spend a great deal of time in front of the camera and never step out of character, they usually have greater acting abilities than mainstream Hollywood actors.
I used to brag endlessly to fans and pornographers about my extreme "Italian" sex drive and how I loved making porn movies. I would go on and on about how I needed more and more to fulfill my insatiable appetite. I lied 100% of the time to 100% of the people. Lying is the native language of porn stars because they can't afford to tell you the truth. Not only would it ruin the fantasy for their fans but more importantly, it would ruin the amount of their paychecks. Don't believe porn actresses when they proudly proclaim they enjoy making porn movies. They're ACTING.
Furthermore, most porn actresses admit they've experienced childhood sexual abuse, physical abuse, verbal abuse and neglect by parents which ultimately led them to the porn industry where they were exploited and suffered even worse abuse.
Porn is NOT glamourous.
Porn is virtually everywhere on earth. It affects everyone. No matter where you go, it’ll be in your path. It will reach you through its TV networks, pay-per-view movies on cable and satellite, Internet Web sites, in-room hotel movies, phone sex, peep shows, and magazines.
But Shelley Lubben will be there too, right in the porn industry’s face exposing its ugly naked truth and offering a message of hope to those who want out of the trap of porn.
Source: Pink Cross Foundation
Shelley Luben mantan aktris porno mengaku bisa keluar dari dunia gelap bernama 'industri pornografi' dan memilih menjadi aktivis melawan ekploitasi seksual terhadap gadis-gadis muda Amerika.
Gadis cantik, bertubuh seksi dan mata yang membangkitkan gairah seakan-akan berkata "I want You". Itu kesan yang terlihat di setiap sampul film porno. Tapi, bisa jadi itulah tipuan terbesar sepanjang masa.
Inilah kisah dan pengakuan Shelley Luben tentang masa buruk dan seluk beluk industri maksiat itu. Tulisan ini diturunkan sebagai pelajaran bagi kita semua. Terutama para aktivis yang "menutup mata" terhadap dampak industri pornografi.
Percayalah, Aku tahu
Aku dulu pernah melakukannya sepanjang waktu dan aku melakukannnya karena nafsuku akan kekuasaan dan kecintaanku kepada uang. Aku tidak pernah menyukai seks. Bahkan Aku tidak menginginkannya dan faktanya aku lebih banyak minum Jack Daniels (jenis minuman alkohol import original. Sejenis Jhonny Walker yang juga masuk Indonesia, red) daripada bersama para pria yang dibayar seperti aku untuk "berpura-pura" di film.
Ya Benar tidak ada diantara kami –gadis-gadis blonde yang menyukai being in porn movie. Kami benci disentuh oleh orang asing yang sama sekali tidak peduli dengan kami. Kami benci dianggap rendah oleh mereka, laki-laki dengan keringat dan bau busuknya. Beberapa diantara kami sering sampai muntah di kamar mandi saat break syuting. Sedangkan yang lainnya berusaha menenangkan diri dengan merokok Marlboro tanpa henti.
Tapi porn industry (industri pornografi) ingin agar kamu selalu berpikir kalau kami artis porno sangat menyukai seks. Mereka ingin kamu percaya bahwa kami senang dilecehkan seperti binatang dalam berbagai jenis adegan di film.
Kenyataannya, artis porno sering tidak tahu apa saja adegan yang akan mereka lakukan saat pertama kali datang ke lokasi syuting dan kami hanya diberi dua pilihan oleh produser: "Lakukan atau Pulang Tanpa Bayaran. Kerja atau tidak akan bisa kerja lagi."
Iya memang benar kami punya pilihan.
Beberapa diantara kami memang sangat memerlukan uang. Tapi kami dimanipulasi, dipaksa bahkan diancam.
Beberapa diantara kami terjangkit AIDS karena profesi ini. Atau tertular herpes dan berbagai macam penyakit kelamin lain yang sukar disembuhkan. Salah seorang artis film porno setelah syuting dengan menahan sakit sepanjang hari setelah sampai dirumah menembak kepalanya dengan pistol.
Kebanyakan dari artis porno mungkin berasal dari keluarga yang berantakan dan pernah mengalami pelecehan seksual dan perkosaan dari keluarga atau tetangganya sendiri. Saat kami kecil kami hanya ingin bermain dengan boneka, bukan mendapatkan trauma saat seorang laki-laki dewasa berada diatas tubuh kami.
Jadi sejak kecil kami belajar bahwa seks bisa membuat kami berharga. Dan dengan semua pengalaman mengerikan itu kami menipu kalian di depan kamera padahal sebenarnya kami membenci di setiap menitnya.
Karena trauma itu kebanyakan artis porno hidupnya tergantung kepada alkohol dan narkotika. Dan hidup kami juga selalu diliputi ketakutan akan terjangkit HIV atau penyakit kelamin lainnya seperti Herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, dll. setiap hari menghantui kami.
Menurut catatan Shelley dalam situs web nya, sebelas bintang pornografi mati akibat HIV, bunuh diri, pembunuhan dan obat pada tahun 2007. Antara 2003 dan 2005, 976 orang pemain dilaporkan dengan 1.153 hasil positif STD, 66% dari pemain pornografi terkena Herpes, penyakit yang tak dapat disembuhkan.
Memang setiap bulan kami diperiksa tapi kamu tahu, kalau hal tersebut tidak akan bisa mencegah kami tertular penyakit-penyakit mematikan itu. Selain penyakit, adegan syuting tidak kalah mengerikannya, banyak dari kami mengalami luka sobek atau luka pada organ tubuh bagian dalam kami.
Diluar syuting kami sering berharap bisa menjalani hidup yang normal. Tapi sangat sulit menjalin hubungan yang normal dengan laki-laki 'biasa', maka dari itu kebanyakan dari kami menikah dengan sutradara film porno atau menjalani hidup sebagai lesbian.
Buat aku, momen yang tidak akan terlupakan adalah ketika tanpa sengaja anak perempuanku melihat ibunya yang telanjang sedang berciuman dengan gadis lain. Anakku pasti akan terus mengingatnya juga.
Pada hari yang lain kami bisa berubah seperti zombie dengan botol bir di tangan kanan dan gelas wisky di tangan kiri. Kami tidak suka bersih-bersih jadi sering kali kami harus menyewa pembantu untuk membersihkan kotoran kami. Selain itu artis porno benci memasak sendiri. Biasanya kami memesan makanan yang kemudian kami muntahkan lagi karena kebanyakan dari kami menderita bulimia, semacam gejala lapar yang tidak pernah terpuaskan.
Bagi artis porno yang memiliki anak, kami adalah ibu yang paling buruk. Kami menjerit dan bahkan memukul anak kami tanpa alasan. Seringkali saat kami begitu mabuknya sampai-sampai anak kami yang berumur 4 tahun yang menyeret kami dari lantai. Dan ketika ada tamu (kebanyakan karena alasan seks) kami harus mengunci anak kami terlebih dulu dikamar dan menyuruh mereka untuk diam.
Kalau aku biasa membekali anak gadisku dengan pager dan kusuruh dia menungguku di taman sampai aku selesai dengan tamuku.
Semua Tipuan...
Kalau kamu bisa melihat lebih dalam kehidupan artis film porno mungkin kamu akan kehilangan minat menonton film porno. Kenyataan sebenarnya kami artis film porno ingin mengakhiri semua rasa malu ini dan semua trauma dalam hidup kami. Tapi sayangnya kami tidak bisa melakukannya sendiri.
Kami berharap kalian kaum pria membantu kami, memperjuangkan kebebasan dan kehormatan kami. Kami ingin kalian memeluk kami saat kami menghapus air mata dan menyembuhkan luka di hati kami. Kami berharap kalian mau berdoa untuk kami dan semoga Tuhan akan mendengar dan mengampuni semua kesalahan kami di masa lalu.
Industri film porno tidak lebih dari "seks palsu" dan "tipuan kamera". Percayalah…….!
Kiriman Abidin MA diambil dari situs Shelley Lubben. Tulisan ini didedikasikan oleh Shelley untuk semua aktris pornografi yang terjangkit HIV, meninggal akibat overdosis atau bunuh diri